Two years ago today was, bar none, the best day of my life. I married my best friend on the most beautiful day of the year, against a backdrop steeped in history – a building renowned for decades of worship and marriage.
After years of chasing my own idea of what I thought love was supposed to look like, I finally surrendered to God’s plan of what love was supposed to look like for ME. Not all marriage is created equal, and not everyone’s plan is the same. When I finally let God write my love story, it was far more beautiful than anything I could have written myself.
After the failure of my second marriage, I was distraught, but willing to finally let go of the reigns for the first time in my life. While I was finally willing to give God control, I still had an actual list of things I wanted in a husband. One day, during a conversation with Jesus, I gave Him my list. It looked a little something like this:
- First and foremost, he needs to love You, Lord. I no longer want to be the spiritual leader in my home. I want a husband and father who will seek you first and be a Godly example for me and my children.
Prayer answered. Frankie has a spiritual hunger that rivals most anyone I know. He is consistently seeking God’s purpose for our family.
2. I have two boys that have been through the ringer because of my failed marriages. God, please find a man that will love my boys like they are his own.
Prayer answered. From the very beginning of our courtship, Frankie has fathered those boys so well. We work very hard at making our blended family a success, because it isn’t easy. We don’t say “step” in our house. We don’t show partiality. Our kids deserve better than that, and Frankie is such a strong example of how to love unconditionally.
3. Lord, give me a man that can make me laugh!
Prayer answered. Marriage is supposed to be fun! When you find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, keep in mind that IT’S FOR LIFE, so doesn’t it make sense to be with someone who you actually have fun with?! There is literally not a day that goes by that my husband and I don’t laugh together. Sometimes AT each other, but mostly just with each other. 😉
4. Lord, is it too much to ask for a little romance?
Prayer answered. While I don’t love the fact that Hollywood romanticizes the most unhealthy facets of many relationships, there’s a lot to be said about a good ‘ole fairy tale. I should know – I married my prince charming. Well….he’s prince charming to ME, anyway. Not everyone would get all silly and giggly about her husband leaving love notes on a Magna Doodle, but I sure as heck do. From silly, everyday gestures like that, to proposing in front of a beautiful sunset and hidden photographers, my husband never fails to romance me.
5. Last but not least, can I have a guy with a dimple in his chin?
Prayer answered. I know it sounds ridiculous, but I figured since I was asking for all of those other important things, I’d throw this in there too. I’ve always been a sucker for a “butt chin”, and as usual – God reminds me that He’s into the little details too. 🙂
I love you, Frankie. Thank you so much for making me your bride…here’s to many more anniversary celebrations!